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I have struggled with this area in my life in so many ways. To give you a bit of background, I originally got into the industry with the wholehearted backing of my now ex-husband. We were struggling financially and for a variety of reasons escorting simply seemed like the only option at the time.
It was not long afterward that I asked for the divorce – more to do with his step-parenting of my children while I was out at night. My children are teenagers – and he just did not know how to appropriately deal with them, much less keep hidden from them my other life. I am not quite sure how relationships remain strong when you’re in the sex business. There are so many men who become “regulars” and want to be emotionally attached for the short amount of time allowed – at least that has been what I have encountered.
So….my entire family found out about my job. My children enjoyed reaping the benefits; however, they also complained to their friends about their mom’s choice of occupation. My mom did not talk to me for a couple of months; my siblings even longer.
None of them have any idea I am back in the workforce.
What has been your experience? What do you recommend? Complete full disclosure or a life of secrecy? Is there anyone else working in this business with kids? I would love to hear your thoughts.
There could be good reasons to come out and good reasons to stay private, so I respect whatever sex workers decide to do. I guess it depends on the person and how accepting they would be. Some people may treat us really awkward if they find out we’re sex workers and perhaps sever relationships with us, so it’s up to us whether we wish to risk having to put up with that type of behavior by coming out. However, it can also be very difficult to keep what we do secret from people we’re close to. Maybe, some people might not react as negatively as we assume they would.
I started being a male escort for the same reasons as you got into it. I haven’t told my wife and I don’t think I ever will. I have only had a couple of clients which were men and I have had to mentally prepare for that. Thankfully to date, I have not had to touch a client, still it is early days. It was easier to make the decision to do it than it was to deal with keeping it a secret, ensuring that it didn’t affect me mentally and staying safe, not just from disease, but from violence.
I was with a client the other night in a hotel and when I was there it struck me that not one person in this world, with the exception of my blog readers, knew where I was. That is a risk, but it has to be that way. The clients aren’t regular unfortunately and unless it picks up, I’m not sure it will be worth the mental anguish. That said, I am in desperate need of money and it has been my only way of making some recently.
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